How Unregulated Emotions Shape Our Character

Experiencing a loss of self is a profound and often distressing emotion that can leave individuals feeling disconnected, disoriented, and unsure of their identity.

When left unregulated, this feeling can significantly shape our character, influencing how we see ourselves and interact with the world around us.

The Impact of Unregulated Loss of Self

When the feeling of losing oneself remains unaddressed, it can lead to several detrimental outcomes:

Identity Confusion:

Individuals may struggle to define who they are, often feeling like they are living according to others' expectations rather than their own desires and values.

Emotional Numbness:

A loss of self can lead to emotional detachment, making it difficult to connect with feelings, which can further exacerbate feelings of isolation and loneliness.

Increased Anxiety and Depression:

Unregulated feelings of disconnection can manifest as anxiety or depression, leading to a downward spiral that impacts mental health.

Difficulty in Relationships:

A lack of self-awareness can hinder the ability to form and maintain healthy relationships, as individuals may struggle to express their needs and boundaries.

my theory is, in completion of my suggested healing programme, heres how a perspective shift may turn feeling fragility into superpowers!

While feeling a loss of self can be challenging, it can also offer unique advantages when embraced and managed effectively:

Enhanced Self-Awareness:

Navigating feelings of disconnection can lead to greater self-awareness, helping individuals understand their true desires and values.

Empathy for Others:

Experiencing a loss of self often heightens sensitivity to others' struggles, fostering deeper connections and understanding.

Resilience:

Overcoming feelings of disconnection can cultivate resilience, enabling individuals to bounce back from setbacks with newfound strength.

Creativity:

The experience of loss can inspire creative expression, leading to innovative ideas and artistic endeavours that resonate with others.

Mindfulness:

The journey of rediscovery encourages mindfulness, helping individuals appreciate the present moment and their unique place within it.

my EXPERIENCE When i completely lost myself

Last year was particularly difficult for me, I was so depressed. I couldn’t even get out of bed, I didn’t want to.

I thought everything was pointless, my energy was gone, it was like my life, my essence, my entire being had just been syphoned out of me.

I would put so much energy and heart into projects and then it was like my brain would malfunction.

It is so disheartening to put so much effort into things for there never to be a win at the end. Something would always happen.

I would see people progress in life around me yet I would feel like I was trying to walk in quick sand. The never ending story of my life.

One thing about me is I never give up, I feel I have been conditioned to have this mindset. I will fall 100 times but get back up 101

and here we are!

FROM HEALED PERSPECTIVE

It actually came to light that I had been surrounded by more than my few share of snakes! However.. I always chose to alchemise my experiences into sources of strength and wisdom.

Through reflection, I have learned that even in the darkest moments, there lies an opportunity for profound growth.

Each trial has shaped my character and deepened my understanding of resilience, fostering a mindset that embraces self-love and compassion for others.

By wanting to help others on a soul level, I have finally found purpose in helping individuals navigate their own challenges.

What is the most important thing to me is I can connect on a soul level to people who have battled with losing themselves & depression.