The Abuse factor
How Unregulated Emotions Shape Our Character
Experiencing abuse, whether physical, emotional, or psychological, can leave profound scars on an individual's psyche.
When left unregulated, the effects of abuse can significantly shape our character, impacting how we view ourselves and interact with the world.
Understanding the implications of unprocessed abuse and implementing my suggested healing programme, inspired by the teachings of Mary Magdalene and Carl Jung, may help transform these painful experiences into sources of strength and resilience.
The Impact of Unregulated Abuse
When the trauma of abuse remains unacknowledged or unprocessed, it can lead to several detrimental outcomes:
Low Self-Esteem:
Survivors of abuse often internalise the negative messages received from their abusers, leading to feelings of worthlessness and low self-esteem.
Trust Issues:
Experiencing betrayal and harm can create deep-seated issues with trust, making it difficult for individuals to form healthy relationships.
Emotional Numbness:
To cope with the pain, individuals may become emotionally numb, detaching from their feelings and those of others, which can further isolate them.
Anxiety and Depression:
Unregulated trauma can manifest as chronic anxiety or depression, impacting daily functioning and overall quality of life.
Identity Confusion:
Survivors may struggle to define their identity apart from their experiences, often feeling lost or disconnected from themselves.
my theory is, in completion of my suggested healing programme, heres how a perspective shift may turn experiencing abuse into superpowers!
While the experience of abuse can be profoundly damaging, it can also lead to unique advantages when embraced and managed effectively:
Enhanced Empathy:
Survivors often develop a heightened sensitivity to the suffering of others, fostering deeper connections and understanding in relationships.
Resilience:
Overcoming the trauma of abuse can cultivate remarkable resilience, enabling individuals to bounce back from adversity with newfound strength and determination.
Authenticity:
Acknowledging and processing past trauma encourages individuals to embrace their true selves, leading to more genuine interactions and relationships.
Creative Inspiration:
The experience of abuse can serve as a catalyst for creativity, inspiring artistic expression that resonates with both the creator and the audience.
Advocacy and Empowerment:
Many survivors become advocates for change, using their experiences to help others and promote awareness, turning their pain into a source of strength for themselves and their communities.
This is what I intend to do.
my experience with Abuse
Like many, I have been abused a plenty.. Mentally, Physically and Spiritually.
I was going to give an example which should have been the biggest motivation for me to leave a situation and I didn’t.
It was one of my biggest lessons.
At this stage I have chosen not to share this as it is too degrading.
My advice is this;
If you are getting into a relationship with someone new, the moment you experience that obvious
RED FLAG
get out! you are in danger.
I was with an ex partner, we were in the honey moon phase, everything was bliss.
Something happened and I stayed as said person put on the full tear works .. ‘I’m so sorry.. please forgive me’ etc when really they had just given me the first glimpse of their true nature.
I chose to forgive him.
This cost my soul greatly.
Please read this - the impact of choosing the wrong partner is very serious.
from a healed perspective
I’m actually grateful I had the experience with this demon as now I’m well versed in scoping them out which of late, helped me get out of what could have been a terrible situation!
(more on that in due time)
